Failure is a part of life. How to help your kids bounce back when they mess up

Failure ... it's a part of life that even young kids have to deal with. So how can you help your little ones bounce back when they mess up?

Research shows a parent's reaction to a child's failure has major implications. In one study, investigators interviewed fourth and fifth grade students and their parents. They found the way children perceived being smart was related to how their parents responded to their failures. Parents who saw failure as debilitating were more likely to have kids who believed intelligence was fixed. Experts say when your child makes a mistake, like getting a bad grade on a test, don't immediately try to bail them out.

"There's learning that happens when children experience some challenges academically, in a way that may not happen if the parents become involved and want to make sure that every answer is correct."

When kids fail ask them how they're feeling about their setback. Let them be open and honest. When you give advice, don't focus on their abilities. Instead, concentrate on what they can learn from the experience. Emphasize that failure is just a chance to grow. And remember, it's your reaction that may have the most impact!