Negative thoughts are bound to run through your mind, but sometimes they can consume your thoughts!
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"I like to describe an inner critic as kind of like a little bully inside of our minds, and it can tell us a lot of negative things," says Lara Davis, a psychologist.
When your inner critic wins, it actually makes it harder for you to succeed. That's because self-criticism releases the stress hormone Cortisol, which sends you into a state of stress and sometimes depression, which destroys motivation.
So how can you help yourself be nicer to yourself?
First, realize that self-talk really matters. Then, make it a point to talk to yourself like you would to your friend. Don't compare yourself to others!
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"That can be like little treats to this inner critic voice," Davis said.
If social media is tempting you to draw comparisons, try limiting the use or taking a break, and practice compassion with yourself.
This might involve meditation or mindfulness exercises. A study at York University found that writing yourself a comforting letter every day for a week can make you feel happier for up to six months.
Lastly, take care of yourself. Do something every day just for you. It could be a small treat like a bubble bath or a coffee you love.